A Word For the Sexually Confused

 

 

Job 5:1 "Call out now; Is there anyone who will answer you? And to which of the holy ones will you turn?”

Eliphaz continues his pontificating in response to Job cursing the day he was born.  This cursing is no light matter. To curse life is to curse God Himself.  The Potter/clay analogy used in Scripture is helpful here and there is no shortage of references in Scripture:

 Isa 45:9 "Woe to him who strives with his Maker! Let the potsherd strive with the potsherds of the earth! Shall the clay say to him who forms it, 'What are you making?' Or shall your handiwork say, 'He has no hands'

Isa 29:16 Surely you have things turned around! Shall the potter be esteemed as the clay; For shall the thing made say of him who made it, "He did not make me"? Or shall the thing formed say of him who formed it, "He has no understanding"?

Isa 64:8 But now, O LORD, You are our Father; We are the clay, and You our potter; And all we are the work of Your hand.

Ro 9:20 But indeed, O man, who are you to reply against God? Will the thing formed say to him who formed it, "Why have you made me like this?"

 

In effect, Eliphaz is saying, “If you want to curse God, for your lot in life, who do you have left to turn to? Is there anyone but God who can help you in your situation? Do you think the angels will help you? They are nothing but awed bystanders in the Potter’s shop! They witness what Sovereign God is doing with each individual and they marvel at His providence as He always works things out for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. 

Ro 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

Let me pause here and briefly address the increasing problem of sexual confusion in our world today: It shouldn’t surprise us with the saturation and fixation of sex in all forms of media in our world today. Sex is the end all! It’s what really matters. I understand the world’s fixation with sex, but find it strange that the professing Christian should be so consumed with something that is temporary and will be completely absent in heaven.

Mt 22:30 "For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven. (celibate)

 

 In this matter of sexual confusion, we need to get an eternal perspective! Eternity is a lot longer than the here and now!

 

Job was in great pain. The sexually confused also experience great emotional pain as the world’s view of sex is pressed in on them from every side. and they often find themselves asking the same question of God  that we find in Rom 9:20, "Why have you made me like this?"

 

Jesus’ discussion with the religious leaders of His day concerning divorce is helpful here. We read about it in  Mt 19:9-12, “And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery."  10 His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry." 11 But He said to them, "All cannot accept this saying, but only those to whom it has been given: 12 "For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother's womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it."

 

First of all, what is a eunuch? A eunuch is someone who has sex removed from their radar screen.  Some are born that way and will not have the desire for heterosexual sex in accordance with God’s will. (It is reserved for man and wife in marriage)

Others are eunuchs made by men. (These eunuchs were physically fixed and placed in charge of the king’s harem, where they could not tinker with the king’s goods.)  But the context here is a eunuch is also man made through the act of unscriptural divorce.

Still others, like the Apostle Paul)  decide to remain unmarried so they can devote themselves to kingdom work without the responsibilities of a wife and children.

 

These three possibilities are available to all, the key for each of us is to embrace our role, and thereby give glory to God. You may struggle with being attracted to the same sex, or you may struggle with your God-given gender. The struggle is real, but you don’t have to act on it. You can embrace your role of eunuch.

 

Jesus, makes it clear that this teaching is difficult: (Not all can accept it) but it’s truth whether we accept it or not. And if you struggle in these areas, don’t curse God, rather invite Him in to your struggle and He will help you through it in accordance with His good and perfect will.